Last night, I had a very strange encounter. Strange in the sense, that I, Mark,Stephen, his partner and one of their friends had dinner together.

Now, why is that strange you may ask??? Well, you know how everyone says that first impressions mean the most. Well, while Mark and I are were conversating with this guy that Stephen and his partner had befriended and had brought to dinner, trying to make him feel comfortable and all, the guy began mentioning past relationships of his that had not worked out and how finally it seemed that he had found the type of guy he had been looking for. What was so disturbing to me was this guy began mentioning NAMES of his Ex's and it just so happened that one of MY ex's was one of the names he had mentioned as being an ex of HIS.

Now, I don't know if two or three dates with a guy then qualifies them as an EX, but this guy clearly thought that it did.
When he mentioned my Ex's name. I was dumbfounded, of course, and the conversation came to a screeching halt. Mark knows of my Ex's and he instantly knew.
I told the guy that the guy he had just mentioned was a not so distant ex of mine. He then began cracking jokes about him. I didn't quite know how to react. Yes, this ex and I had ended rather badly....but I felt uncomfortable with this going on. So, I told him that I had made amends with this ex and in truth, he isnt really THAT bad of a guy. All in all I think he means well and that sometimes people can't help their money status and that he ATLEAST worked. I then asked the guy, ok his name is Travis, how he ended the "relationship" and did it go over ok. He informed me that he simply....stopped calling the guy.

Now, I don't know how fair that really is. In a sense, that is playing with other people's emotions and for me personally that isn't cool. It sets someone up to think that they may not be good looking enough, or has the personailty that other people may not care for. All in all....it can be very damaging to one's persona of themselves and critically injure their self esteem.

Why not just simply tell them the truth??? It isn't THAT hard of a thing to do. Just tell the person, "Hey, things aren't working out, Things aren't really what I had the expectations of them being...and I am sorry." It's as simple as that. It's the honest approach, feelings are less hurt and people arent left with that lingering question as to "Why."

Travis, was and is a nice guy. By posting this, hopefully it will allow that particular EX of mine, to finally know the real truth as to what happened with Travis. That it wasn't him personally, that evidently Travis is someone who bases others on what they possess, own and or have.